{"id":681,"date":"2026-04-09T02:24:17","date_gmt":"2026-04-09T09:24:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/?p=681"},"modified":"2026-04-09T08:34:32","modified_gmt":"2026-04-09T15:34:32","slug":"you-die-so-that-i-can-dance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/?p=681","title":{"rendered":"You Die, so that I Can Dance!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Losses are difficult. I don’t have any children and I don’t claim to understand how difficult it can be to lose your child. I don’t mean to be insensitive, or draw any parallels or comparisons either. But we have lost two dog boys. And I have felt the physical pain of sadness (yes, physical pain) after losing each one. It’s just over a year since we lost our older dog, Munchkin, and I still cannot stop my tears every time I remember him, which happens quite often. To many, this may sound like overdramatization, but if you have ever lost any pets you probably understand. This is a bit embarrassing, but if you are curious, you can read my notes about the emotional roller coaster I have experienced since the passing of Munchkin over a year ago, at munchkin-and-tiny.com<\/a>. So, although I cannot claim I understand the pain of those parents who have lost a child, I have at least some idea about how unimaginably difficult it can be. And I also understand it would be even more difficult if the loss was not of natural causes, but rather a result of bombings by a foreign country, or as some may put it, as a “casualty of war.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don’t live in Iran. It’s been more than a quarter of century since I have moved out of Iran. But I was born in Iran and spent my entire childhood and a good portion of my young adult life in Iran. I know firsthand how difficult it is to live under the repressive regime of Iran, with the police and other armed so-called law enforcement forces interfering with every aspect of people’s lives, private or otherwise. I know how corruption, fraud, and abuse is rampant in every segment of the government activities. I know how incompetent officials have ruined the resources of the country and have driven the economy to the point where the middle class has practically disappeared, and a vast majority of government’s own employees live below the poverty line. So, if someone who is currently living in Iran believes things cannot get any worse than this, I cannot and would not blame them. And if a majority of people in Iran prefer foreign nations bombing the country, even if it is not with the intention of freeing the people of Iran, but to ultimately take away resources of the country, I don’t feel entitled to argue against their wish or preference. Even if some of the people in Iran openly express happiness about the bombings which have inevitably resulted in the losses of innocent lives, while I strongly disagree with that stance, at least I understand where it could be coming from.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I cannot say the same when someone who does not live in Iran, or worse, has never lived in Iran since the current regime came to power, supports the war without having anything of their own to put on the line for it. Supporting a war in which other people’s lives are at danger, even if it is for an ultimate good cause, is like giving someone else’s money to charity, and in some cases even worse, claiming credit for it too. It seems so selfish for someone to advocate for a war which they also admit will inevitably have innocent casualties, so that they can return to Iran and enjoy the nostalgic life they have been dreaming about for decades. What right do they believe they have to ask for others to sacrifice their lives so that they can live a happier lives? To put it more bluntly, what price, in terms of the number of innocent lives, do they put on their stupid dance to an event stupider song about returning to Tehran?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Losses are difficult. I don’t have any children and I don’t claim to understand how difficult it can be to lose your child. I don’t mean to be insensitive, or draw any parallels or comparisons either. But we have lost two dog boys. And I have felt the physical pain of sadness (yes, physical pain) […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[293,280,294,292],"class_list":["post-681","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-society","tag-casualties","tag-iran","tag-selfishness","tag-war"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=681"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":698,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/681\/revisions\/698"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=681"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=681"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jaberborran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}